Self Love (Part VI)

Self-love. Love yourself and respect yourself enough to make Don Miguel Ruiz's Four Agreements (or something of the like) your pillars to self-love and self-mastery.


agreement 1

Be impeccable with your word - Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love. 

agreement 2

Don’t take anything personally - Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

agreement 3 

Don’t make assumptions - Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

agreement 4 

Always do your best - Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

*Source: The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz.

Local Acts of Sheer Kindness.

Last night, Dan and I went on an impromptu dinner-date to one of our absolute favourite local spots, Pure Kitchen. We were craving something quick, flavourful, nutritious and healthy. 

for the vegetarian, the vegan, the omnivore and the flexitarian.
for the Westborite and the Glebite.
for the Hintonburgian and the Centertownian.
for the sidewalk surfer and the Gatineau Park explorer.
for the napper and the kayaker, the yogi and the circuit-trainer.
for the gamer, the gardener, the courier and the cycle-to-worker.
for the punk rocker and the Bluesfester.

We showed up and there was a small wait for a table. No biggie. It's always so worth it! There was a group of four ahead of us, which turned out to be Dan's boss.

We chatted with them and shared some of our top-menu choices with them anticipating the imminent deliciousness to hit our palates. It was qutie funny because we ended up being seated next to their four-top and our meals were almost entirely synchronized from starters to dessert. (Yes, we had a little wee dessert!)

At the time of requesting the bill, our server informed us that Dan's boss had taken care of our bill. It was entirely unexpected and just PUREly (haha, PURE Kitchen, get it?) generous and kind-hearted!

West End Well, Co-Operatively Run Shop, Chill-Out, and Dine-In Spot. Photo Cred.: The World Wide Web, by Denise Deby.

West End Well, Co-Operatively Run Shop, Chill-Out, and Dine-In Spot. Photo Cred.: The World Wide Web, by Denise Deby.

Today's pace can be so quick and we become so task-focused, ruling out our surroundings and the human beings around us. So, the next time you're in line at your local coffee shop or the West End Well, for example, I challenge you to consider paying it forward.

The West End Well, a co-operatively run shop, chill-out, and dine-in spot in Hintonburg, has the most awesomest Pay It Forward system in place. You can buy what they call a "suspended coffee, bread, muffin, coffee or soup," which goes up on the "board" for anyone to claim, no-questions asked. It is an honesty based system, and the staff are very discreet with compassion, knowing it takes courage to ask for a suspended coffee, bread, muffin, coffee or soupAlternatively, you can Pay It Forward by making a modest donation to the West End Well's access fund, which they will in turn pay forward to some of their partners, including the Parkdale Food Centre.  Sweet, right?

I hope that you will be compelled to pay it forward in a small way today and tomorrow, and the next day. Open the door for someone. Give a smile to a stranger. It all counts, baby!

Thanks for the inspiration goes out to Dan's boss.

Be good to you.

W xo